What’s Your Peri/Menopause Style?
Ever feel like you’re going back over old ground, emotionally?
It might be changes in your cycle.
It feels like déjà vu.
There is the sense, maybe in your gut, that this is vaguely familiar.
The landscape looks the same.
It even feels the same.
Haven’t we been here before?
Feeling like you’ve been somewhere before is not an everyday occurrence. When it happens, it feels significant. We may also wonder why or how this happens.
But when it comes to your menstrual cycle, having that feeling of déjà vu is not something you expect. Your cycle can’t go backwards, right?
Sometimes, it can.
Obviously, for each woman, her cycle is unique.
So is how she transitions out of her cycle (i.e. during peri-menopause and menopause).
Three Common Transitions
In my practice there are three types of transitions I commonly hear about. (There are many others, of course, but these come up often.)
For some women, the transition of menopause can by symbolized as a gate through. You may almost feel the shift from one step -leaving your old phase- and planting your foot down in the next phase of life. This may be subtle, but you’ll notice a shift physically or emotionally.
For others, peri-menopause and menopause is more accurately described as a step up into the next phase of life. Sometimes this step feels like a change in altitude – hold on!
For some women, the transition is symbolized as a wave going out and then coming back in again. Their menstrual cycle has reached its furthest point, and now it is returning over similar territory. And this type of transition is particularly prone to that feeling of déjà vu.
This feeling of déjà vu in your cycle is perfectly normal. It’s just one of many paths that menopause can take.
Types of Deja Vu
This feeling of déjà vu related to the menstrual cycle can be physical, as in the return of physical symptoms we haven’t felt since our 20s or 30s. It can also be emotional, noticing feelings or moods or ways of relating we thought we were done with. Spirituality can also need to be revisited- traces of old beliefs may buzz in our ear, asking for attention.
This idea of reaching a certain point and returning has zero to do with femininity or creativity, though.
Quite the opposite- when the water rushes back, goes over the same territory from a different angle- there is great creativity and nourishment.
The one thing this feeling offers us is the opportunity to dig a bit deeper into what feels like “we’ve already been here” and investigate:
- do I need to remember something about this time in my life?
- do I need to wash away these traces more completely?
- do I just need to let Time do her work and not worry so much?
- do I need new ways of working with this and finally healing it?
Taking some quiet time – a walk, maybe journaling, or sitting in nature – can help us tune in to the answer. The more you can listen to your body and believe its story, the more you can help yourself through the transition of menopause- whether that journey is a gate, a step, or a wave.