I think this might be true for many women, but I come from a long line of fixers and doers and healers.
My great-grandma, A, was a woman I remember very little of, except that she was the first to figure out I had Type 1 diabetes. She knew I needed healing. And if I remember correctly, she was often fixing things, big and small, with pursed lips and bright eyes, in a lot of places- home, church, her neighborhood.
My grandmother, C, is a wonderful hostess. She knows how to take simple things and make them into something beautiful. She sets a space to its ‘right’ energy and makes people feel entertained and joyful.
My mother, K, used to re-fashion (among many other things) run-down camping trailers into comfortable, lovely caravans where we spent many hours reading, running around near forests and oceans, and enjoying a strong, warm campfire.
We, all the women in my line, we know how to take the broken + the rough + the simple and turn them into something beautiful- into their true form.
And just like the rest of my matrilineage, I am also a healer, a fixer, a way-finder.
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I don’t really believe that people are ‘broken,’ but I do believe we all have wounds. And it’s my job (calling, soul contract, whatever) to help people heal their wounds.
This sounds like something deep and intense, but it’s really not. Sometimes healing is as simple as being heard, being accepted, and being made to feel acceptable. It’s quite healing to simply be seen.
Sometimes, it is deeper work. Sometimes it is finding old wounds – from the family or the schoolyard or other places – and needing to tenderly clean them out and heal them. And sometimes it’s also the fun of finding the right mix of herbs and self-calming tools to heal the mind::body and having a good laugh while we do it.
Nevertheless, my work is to guide and support those who wish to heal. And, for whatever reason, the body has always been my favorite place to do this work.
Working with the body is why I started in the holistic health arena. And why I further delved into women’s health as I began to take care of my own body. And then the Sex Surge happened.
When the Sex Surge hit me, my mission became even clearer and I’ve spent the last five years on this website and newsletter as a labor of love. Because this unexpected hormonal shift must be claimed + defined + protected- and I am here to hold that space and talk about it as much as is needed so women going through it can feel normal.
I also talk about mid-life issues, balancing hormones, and dealing with affairs (contemplating, deciding, staying in/getting out, etc.) because those are places that allow me to joyfully help heal others.
I know that my gift it to heal, but lately I know I’m not applying that gift in the ways that most help to heal you – my amazing community of mid-life women and Sex Surgers.
Up to this point, I have created the things that I wanted when I was going through the Sex Surge and hormonal shifts.
I wanted someone to talk to so I created the One-Time Consult.
I wanted someone to travel the road of hormonal shifts and dealing with the exhausting thrill of the Sex Surge, so I created coaching packages to meet those things.
And I wanted someone to help me tease out the knotted strings of wanting an affair, so I created “The Mermaid’s Dilemma” course.
But I am realizing – so. very. late. in the game. – that this isn’t necessarily what you want or what will help you. And as a healer and guide, what I want most is to help you.
So this is your chance, dear readers. Tell me, give me your opinions and feedback and ideas!
How can I help you heal?
What do you need and want from me?
What is your heart, or body, or mind aching for help with?
Where are you lost or wounded and want help healing?
Tell me, please, because I want to help. I want to see you, hear you, and support you.
Tell me how.
To make it easy for you to speak freely and without worry, I have created an anonymous online survey asking you a few questions about what you need or want help with. I’m ready to create new resources, classes, and programs- and I want them to focus on you and what you need. Because, otherwise, why am I even here?
Please click on this link to be taken to the survey.
It’s 2 pages, 8 questions, about 4-7 minutes, depending on how long your answers are.
Thank you so much for taking the time to fill this out and share with me what you really need and want help with. I’m really looking forward to digging into your wisdom, ideas, and feedback.
Joanna :: xoxo