I was putting away the things from Halloween this past week – getting ready for Thanksgiving here in America (because it’s about 2 weeks away and that means the pressure is on)- and I was taking apart my costume and sat looking at the bits and pieces.
I was a witch for Halloween. But not just any witch! I was a recruiter for Hogwarts (the “School of Witchcraft and Wizardry” made famous in J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series- and if you don’t know them, go read them!). Specifically, I was a ‘Senior Recruitment Specialist’ between the US and UK. (You know all the American kids want to get into Hogwarts, right?)
I totally wore a nametag.
I was looking at it and thinking about how fun it is that, for one night a year, we can be anything we want to be. And, of course, lots of us just pick something fun or wacky or sexy to be that night. But I think it’s really important to point out the joy and creativity and even some of the surprises that we can find in pretending to be something else, someone else, for a night.
In my case, I picked these funny symbols to go after my name. I picked them because I thought they looked cool. I put them after my name the same way I put “BS, MSW” after my name in real life, as if they were certifications pertinent to witch and wizard recruitment. But as I looked at them, I realized, they were symbols for writing, change, the four directions, and love. Which is kind of what I am about. My subconscious mind was reflecting something back to me and it was a surprise to see it like that.
The most fun, though, was pretending to be her. With my dangling moon earrings, glitter-starred tights, tall black boots, and purple and black robes. It was so fun to let that part of myself take up space in the world, creative and joyful.
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I’ve been reading lots of articles lately about the current state of being a woman in the Western world. And, basically, we are stressed the fuck out. (Can I get an ‘amen!’?)
We tend to our families, often doing more physical and emotional work than anyone else in the house.
We work at our careers. Which might be ‘gigs’ that don’t offer enough $$ or benefits. Or we might be being edged out by younger, cheaper workers and so that’s a worry.
We support our community with time, resources, or money. (And if we give time, that can also be a stressor.)
We carry a lot of the ‘extra’ information for our families- who needs a coat or shoes, which birthdays are coming up of the kids’ friends, when the dentist appointments are, which mom is doing soccer pick up this week, where grandpa’s legal paperwork is. We hold that space of info in our brains far more than our spouses or partners typically do.
It’s a lot of stuff we do. Being stressed the fuck out is a reasonable response.
And I wonder, in the midst of all this, if we wish we could be someone else, or have a little magic (called ‘someone else folded the laundry’), or feel creative and lighter than we usually do.
Do you wish you were someone different? Almost like Halloween?
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I think that there is a wide range of what each of us would change if we could. For some of us, small changes would be the magic we are looking for. A little help with the dishes or someone else remembering the dentist appointments. For others, big things- like a better job or a divorce- would be the biggest help.
What would you imagine, if you imagined a more joyful life for yourself?
Who do you imagine yourself being on the fun days? on the bad days?
Which woman inside of you helps you escape sometimes?
At mid-life I don’t know that we can have all these pieces of ourselves, but I believe we can let them out to play. I believe these other ‘selves’ can show us something important about who we are. And also what we need in our life. I think it’s very, very useful to acknowledge them and open to them and see what they have to tell us. Those other selves might be a surprise, but they might also be a reflection of who we actually are.
This is especially true for those in the Sex Surge. Letting your sensual, sexual, erotic self have safe places to come out and play is vital to understanding who and what you need to become. And sometimes that does mean a little extra dressing up or practicing at being someone different.
What I wonder is: Who do you wish you were, sometimes?
And what does that woman tell you about who you need to be, maybe, in real life?
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If you want to explore this, I have a new package open until Thanksgiving. It’s called the “Telling Your Truth Sessions. All the details are below.
For $197.00 USD you get 4 sessions with me to tell the truths you need to tell and let me support you as you find your way forward inside those truths. Even if you don’t know your truth right now, this is a good place to explore what you don’t know- or what you wish you knew.
These sessions are very much like dumping your purse on the table and cleaning it out- sorting through, chucking out, organizing, getting clean and clear. I help guide this process by listening deeply, helping you work through things, and offering any tools, ideas, resources, or perspectives that will help you both shift and ground yourself.
Often, sessions revolve around:
- hormonal stuff (getting your cycle back in order, taking the edge off peri-menopause or PMS symptoms)
- sex stuff (needing it more, wanting it less, communicating needs)
- relationship stuff (communicating, deciding about affairs, what to try/know if you want to make it work)
- expression stuff (sexual, artistic, work-related)
- figuring ourselves out stuff (just talking, intuitive guidance, self-care, stress reduction)
When we talk, it’s on the phone or via Skype. It’s very intimate and open and safe. I have been known to use the f-word a time or six in conversation, so know that when you make the choice to buy. But when we talk, it’s really a space for you to let everything out, sort through things, and begin to make some choices and changes (especially the small ones) that will help you feel better about your life and what you’re doing with it.
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If you’re dealing with the things listed above, or you are simply wanting more for yourself, or you want to work with me on a faster/cheaper basis, this is a great deal to take advantage of. It’s four sessions for just over the price of one.
The Tell Your Truth sessions are conducted once per week for a total of 4 weeks. Each session lasts 45 minutes and you have 1-2 follow up emails a week as well. I only work M-F, though, so if you need anything on a weekend it waits until Monday rolls around. There is lots of flexibility in the schedule, but if you can’t find a time, email me- we’ll make it work.
If you have questions about whether this is right for you, please email me! I am more than happy to take a few minutes to hear your story and assess what’s the best resource for you (it might not be me!).
You can reach me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
If you’re ready to buy, you can hit the button down there and it will take you to my calendar where you can schedule your first session (or, you can schedule them all, if you feel like it!). I’m really looking forward to connecting with you, listening to your truth, and helping you feel like you’re moving in the right direction for yourself.
4 weeks | 4 sessions | $197.00 USD