I was thinking last week about what’s happening on the Earth right now (weather-wise) and how it’s an intense summer in the Northern hemisphere and in the middle of winter for my ladies in the Southern hemisphere. And while the middle of summer and the middle of winter are complete opposites, weather-wise, they are both pretty intense times. Yes, summer is warm and fun and sunny, but it’s also freaking HOT and sweaty and a gal can melt sometimes. Of course, the winter also has its intensity- the desire to bundle up and do nothing, the need for warmth and safety, the blessing of comfort foods. These are both really intense times of year for the human body.
To all this, I also add many dear friends and family who have had major upheavals in the last few weeks. So many people have quit jobs, gotten new ones (suddenly!), left relationships, moved (or planned to), or just plain broke down. I’m kind of into astrology, and there are six planets doing wonky things right now (called ‘retrograde’ if you wanna go look it up) and I’d kind of like to blame it all on that!
[If you were wondering, I believe a lot of weird things, because I’m into whatever works to help people heal. Like, if astrology floats your boat and answers Life’s questions for you- right on. If you think Ayurveda is a cool diet plan- get down with your bad self. When I was in seminary, there was an honest-to-goodness psychic in my class; I can’t deny some of this stuff exists. I think people are sensitive to different things, and I am not about to deny anyone their right to try or believe something different as long as it doesn’t hurt other people. So, yeah, sometimes I am down with astro shizz…]
Back to our regularly scheduled program.
Here we are in some intense times of the year. Big energy. Potentially lots going on- or at least potentially a lot weighing on us. And that’s the thing about intensity- it feels like more. In the summer, it’s an intense heat. In the winter, it’s an intense cold. And while they both have their good points, it’s just more. And if anything new, strange, unexpected, or intense is also happening in the rest of your life, it makes this time of year even tougher.
When life is tough and intense (and maybe a little crazy) we do have some things we can experiment with to take the edge off.
Giving in to it. If it’s super cold outside, bring an extra blanket to work and keep yourself red-cheeked warm. If it’s gorgeously sunny, make sure you take your lunch or break outdoors and soak it in (but don’t get burned!). Accepting the intensity, “F-ck, yeah! It’s blue cold outside and I am going to be WARM and cozy and sh!t” can help. Just sink into it instead of trying to hold it at arm’s length.
Taking it slowly. When things are intense, we tend to go faster to get more done so we can be done. But that usually means we make more mistakes (and/or end up having more work piled on us because we’re so good. Gee, thanks!) Slowing down helps. Letting go of things that never make it to the top of the To Do list also helps (have a cry, cross it out, move on). Forgiving ourselves for not being a machine also helps. And three long, deep breaths is always a good place to start.
Extra rest. This might mean more sleep in the winter and maybe a little extra lazing around by the campfire in summer. Either way, feel free to just chill for a while and let the busy-ness pass you by. A little nap in the sun, an extra hour of sleep, a relaxing cup of tea with no one around, those are going to help you feel better during intense times. [Umm…extra points if you get an orgasm before you go to sleep! Partner-induced or self-induced- they are equally great relaxants. Just sayin’…]
Whatever works for you. “Hard times require furious dancing.” – Alice Walker. Maybe getting quiet, resting, and slowing down are not what helps you. You know best what works for you during intense phases of life. Trust your wisdom; do those things.
Lend a hand. If you’re not dealing with intensity right now, then WOO HOO! Lucky you! Maybe you could invite a friend out for a nice, warm dinner. Or pick up a gal pal for a little toe-dipping in the local water spot. If you’re like me, it takes having someone reach out to get me out of my intensity zone. Call a friend; say, ‘yes!’
Whether the intensity in your life is due to the weather, the planetary mis-alignments, the Sex Surge, mis-matched hormones, or just life, we can take the edge off with a little intention and a little self-care. Be as good to your self as you would be to others in this phase and it won’t feel so weighted and stressful. You have permission to take good and gentle care of you.