It’s the second week of the Western new year and I hope you are all doing well. The turn of the new year is a time when we commit to change because we have mulled over the past year (or years) and looked at what we want our life to be- how we want it to be different, most often. The insights we’ve gained about how and what we want to change tell us what we want to be about.
When I say ‘what we want to be about’ I am thinking of how we see ourselves, what we want to make of ourselves, and what we want to carry forward into the next year. It’s kind of a shorthand way of saying “how you carry your self and deal with your life.” That’s what you’re about.
Obviously, we want to be about our best. We want to reach for the best of what we know and hope for within ourselves. We want to reach toward our own light and strength. But I think we also have to be about our ‘real’ – because what’s ‘real’ contains both the light and the dark.
I believe that knowing both our light and our dark helps us reach our goals better than only looking towards our ‘light’ or ‘best’ or ‘goodness.’ If we know and accept both, if we are about both our light and our dark, we end up reaching for the light without getting tripped up by the dark.
I also believe in being about our ‘real’ because our ‘real’ is our truth. No one is only light. No one is only dark. We are mixtures of both across our life, in many situations. And that is the truth. And the truth is the only thing that actually gets us any forward movement with personal change.
We have to embrace the ‘real’ that we want to eat more veggies and that we like candy.
We have to accept the ‘real’ that we want to reach an exercise goal and that we like to hit the snooze button a few extra times.
We must hold the truth that we dig our female body and that the hormonal shifts drive us a little crazy sometimes.
And the Sex Surge is a most certainly a delicate balance between the light and dark of a high libido.
If we don’t admit to both, we leave half the story- and half the wisdom- out of the picture. With both the light and the dark we can move forward with more grace and ease.
When we know what is our most ‘real’ we know what we’re about and how we want to move forward with the year and our goals.
So, in that vein, I am sharing what we’re about here at JoannaMeriwether.com.
What Are We About?
There are currently three things that define my work with clients and what I offer for guidance/mentoring, classes, and other services.
:: The Sex Surge ::
When your libido goes through the roof as a mid-life (or later!) woman and you feel like a teenage boy, you want so much sex. (Your libido may not be that high, but it’s definitely shifted up and you notice it- that’s the Surge.)
It’s real. It’s fun. It’s impactful. And I’m gonna talk about it. This is both light and dark because even though society wants women to be lusty and libidinous, we also get a lot of crap for owning our libido and asking for more sex.
:: Mid-life Hormones and Shit… ::
…I mean, ‘Hormones and Their Impact.’ Ahem.
This is somewhat related to the Sex Surge because I believe The Surge is often (but not always) a precursor to peri-menopause. In any case, hormones start shifting at mid-life and we need help dealing with the impact of those changes. I’m here to educate, support, and manage the hormonal shifts and their practical implications on a woman’s body, mind, and spirit.
:: Extra-marital Affairs ::
This is something new- to single out this issue. Usually I just hide it under the Sex Surge umbrella. But the fact is, even if affairs are immoral (and I don’t believe they always are), they still happen. And women need a place to talk about them. This site, and my counseling chair/phone, are a safe place to talk about affairs and work through the decisions about them because they are often part of both the Sex Surge and mid-life.
So, this is the truth and the ‘real’ of what we do here. It’s what we are about. It’s the best of what I have to offer infused with the dark and difficult truth of being human + female.
And if this is what you’re about, I’m glad to have you along on this journey. Let’s continue stepping into 2018 with our truth, our ‘real,’ and see where it takes us.