One of the things I see, over and over again, in my practice and in the lives of mid-life women (especially mid-life women!) is the importance of telling the truth.
Maybe this seems like an obvious statement, but – as women – we are so often encouraged to not tell the truth. It’s not just the admonishment to ‘be nice,’ where that phrase actually means ‘don’t hurt other people’s feelings by saying what’s really going on for you.’ Not telling the truth is also the little ways in which we learn to be quiet in order to keep the peace. And, goodness knows, keeping the peace is something we desperately need (as we’re juggling work, kids, home, community).
But these things build up inside most of us. Like goop inside a drain, the times we don’t tell the truth stick inside us and make it harder to swallow, harder to breathe. Keeping the peace shuts us down in little ways sometimes, making us smaller than we know ourselves to be. And sometimes the drain gets clogged and we have a breakdown of crying and/or screaming because…we’ve had it.
each time we tell the truth, we light our path.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not against ‘picking our battles’ and ‘knowing when something is worth fighting for- or not worth it’- those are important skills. But we all know those times when we needed or wanted to tell the truth, our truth, and we didn’t…and we regretted it.
This is also not to say that telling the truth isn’t hard sometimes. Yes, sometimes telling our truth means we will hurt someone else, and that’s really tough to deal with on both sides. But, I will also say, sometimes it’s worth going through the hurt so the issue can be made transparent and then work towards healing it. I believe that telling our truth has great value, even if it’s tough.
And in mid-life there are approximately 10,000 things we might need to tell the truth about.
That the marriage needs a break…or is over.
That somebody else has go to start helping with the house.
That we really, really want to get in that person’s pants.
That this week in our cycle is the one that always throws us for a loop.
That we’re just so tired of taking care of everything.
That we really need to see a mental health person and figure this issue out.
That we want more…even if we’re not sure of what.
That our life is not turning out like we thought it would- and whatthefuck do we do about that?
The we need a boundary there, cuz we’re done.
That the money situation is kinda messed up.
That we love all our people, but could they please, just…stop?
That we need help.
That we deserve a good love.
That we are fucking tired. (And tired of being tired.)
That we’re scared.
That we need a good scream.
That we need a good orgasm.
That we just want something for ourselves.
What I have watched women get out of telling their truth is pretty amazing.
Peace. When a woman can finally tell the truth she has been holding back, a sense of calm returns to her. It take energy and effort to hold things back, and when we let go and let it out, our mind:body system doesn’t have to work so hard.
Self-acceptance and self-esteem. When we tell a truth of our lives, we show that we accept ourselves (our ideas, our perspective). We also give ourselves a sense of inner strength we may not have had before. If I can say, “This is my truth…” it shows I have the strength to do that very thing.
Empowerment. This is probably the biggest impact I’ve seen from telling the truth- feeling capable of making choices for yourself and the life you want or the life you feel you need. The inner strength that comes from telling the truth often helps clear the air and gives us the strength to make choices that feel more aligned with who we know ourselves to be. Very often, the act of telling the truth- even if it’s messy, loud, and chaotic- reveals options we didn’t see before because we had been stuck in the cloud of untruth.
If you need a place to tell your truth, I’m offering a short-term package for just that.
It’s called the Telling Your Truth Sessions.
For $197.00 USD you get 4 sessions with me to tell the truths you need to tell and let me support you as you find your way forward inside those truths.
You might find this helpful if you:
- are dealing with the Sex Surge and need some quick focus
- are having trouble with your cycle and you need/want to look at the truths inside your hormones
- know there is stuff sitting inside you, waiting to come out, but you don’t have a safe place to put it. I’m like Vegas in this case- what happens here, stays here; say what you need to say so it can just get out of your brain
- need or want some intuitive guidance (yeah, I do the woo-woo stuff)
- want to feel empowered in your life, but you’re not sure how to do that
- need to access your mid-life wisdom
- need to talk about having or wanting an affair and what you should do
- want a mirror to reflect back to you what’s really going on in your life so you can make some changes
When we talk, it’s on the phone or via Skype. It’s very intimate and open and safe. I have been known to use the f-word a time or six in conversation, so know that when you make the choice to buy. But when we talk, it’s really a space for you to let everything out, sort through things, and begin to make some choices and changes (especially the small ones) that will help you feel better about your life and what you’re doing with it. It’s sort of like dumping your purse on the table and cleaning it out- sorting through, chucking out, organizing, getting clean and clear. I help guide this process by listening deeply, helping you work through things, and offering any tools, ideas, resources, or perspectives that will help you both shift and ground yourself.
[Wanna know what it’s like to work with me? Let these women tell you.]
If you’re dealing with the things listed above, or you are simply wanting more for yourself, or you want to work with me on a faster/cheaper basis, this is a great deal to take advantage of. It’s four sessions for just over the price of one.
The Tell Your Truth sessions are conducted once per week for a total of 4 weeks. Each session lasts 45 minutes and you have 1-2 follow up emails a week as well. I only work M-F, though, so if you need anything on a weekend it waits until Monday rolls around. There is lots of flexibility in the schedule, but if you can’t find a time, email me- we’ll make it work.
If you have questions about whether this is right for you, please email me! I am more than happy to take a few minutes to hear your story and assess what’s the best resource for you (it might not be me!).
You can reach me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
If you’re ready to buy, you can hit the button down there and it will take you to my calendar where you can schedule your first session (or, you can schedule them all, if you feel like it!). I’m really looking forward to connecting with you, listening to your truth, and helping you feel like you’re moving in the right direction for yourself.
[if that doesn’t work for some reason, please click these words and it will get you to the scheduler!]