The visual signs of Spring have finally arrived at my house. The rain has come (in buckets, some days) and the flowers are blooming. My daffodils are full yellow-faced joy, the maple tree is showing red buds, and the fuzzy green grass is starting to come up.
And I was struck by how good everything is, as is.
Simple beauty, easy and lovely.
No fixing needed.
We live in a world focused on fixing. To a certain extent, that’s what I do here- help ‘fix’ hormones. I like the word and concept ‘support’ better, but it’s still kinda the same thing in that we want to change things to some state we prefer. Which is not a bad thing. But ‘fixing’ can get tricky, you know?
I hold two beliefs that are tricky because they seem to contradict each other:
1- that we can be both perfectly fine as we are and also
2- that sometimes we need to fix some things.
Both can be true.
In fact, I think both are true. I also think of ‘fixing’ and ‘support’ in the triune symbol of the female: maiden, mother, and crone. (Or, I think I prefer: princess, queen, and dowager.) There are parts of us that are the queen: assured, grounded, skilled, active. There are parts of us that are the princess: curious, uneducated, excited, but unskilled. We contain both (and really, so much more). The princess needs support to become the queen.
Perhaps like a princess might, the sunshine and the flowers of Spring reminded me to look at the parts of us that are just fine. The parts of ourselves we have peace with, the parts we love. To see what is bright and lovely within ourselves.
Focusing on what is lovely in ourselves is one of the pleasures we don’t take much time with. How often are we given the time, space, or permission to think about how far we’ve come, how much we’ve done with our lives, what particular brand of sh-t we’ve gotten through? Not often. But, as the Facebook meme says: you have lived through 100% of the difficulties of your life; you are a freaking success!
What if today we gave ourselves that very thing- the gift of looking at who we are, acknowledging and accepting all that we’ve come through, and even celebrating all of that as a giant success? How good would that feel? I invite you to do that today, even if it’s just one thing you acknowledge about yourself or what you’ve come through in life. Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back. (Extra points if you do it with a glass of red wine and/or dark chocolate!)
You’ve made a lot of progress in your life, I’m willing to bet. And no matter what might need ‘fixing’ or ‘support’ there is a lot of you that is wonderful, perfect as is. Today, indulge yourself in recognizing that.