In a few days we will bid farewell to 2016. I don’t know about you, but I’m glad to see it go.
I learned a lot this year, matured into a new level of me-ness, and let go of some incredibly difficult stuff. Learning was tough and came with a lot of sweat and tears. I guess it wasn’t that 2016 was a bad year, it’s just that I didn’t want to learn what I had to learn.
But now that I’ve learned my lessons for the year?
Yeah, buh-bye 2016!
This brings me around to the perennial issue of New Years: making one’s self better in some way, starting January 1st. The magazines all say the same thing this time of year: new you! new outlook! healthy habits! better time management! more exclamation points! These messages are both excitement-creating and exhausting in their demands that we bring forth something new.
The topic that ranks first is, of course, weight loss. Diet and Exercise. Some people vow to be more organized or volunteer more. Lots of people hope to quit some ‘bad’ quality or habit and/or to take on a ‘good’ one. (Stopping the ‘bad’ thing is different from integrating the ‘good’ thing. Two different actions, my friends.)
And my answer to all this is: it’s totally awesome if you want to use the added motivating factor of the New Year to give yourself a little running start on health changes. That is totally dope (as we used to say in 1991).
But, if you’re like a lot of people, starting a new habit on New Year’s day can bring doubt and frustration about your ability to be capable in your own life- especially as the weeks roll on and we see our efforts making little or no sustainable progress. Most people quit their New Year’s goals around 10-12 days after New Year’s and then feel really guilty and ashamed for another three weeks or so.
What do I propose instead?
Just a tiny shift in perspective.
I want us to remember that we can change at any time. It doesn’t have to be a special day of the year (although, again, if you get a boost of energy from New Year’s – use it, baby!). Change doesn’t require a special anything. Change really only has to be about you and what you want. And you can choose to change any day of the year.
You can also choose to not change at all. Which I am totally down with because ladies, you’re amazing AS IS. You don’t need to change no nuthin’ about yourself. Maybe this New Year’s is about accepting yourself, just the way you are, and not changing a thing.
It doesn’t matter what you choose to do with New Year’s day- as long as you recognize that you are choosing.
Having choices is the basis of empowerment.
We get to choose what we do, most especially with regards to New Years and new habits we want to develop, and that is where our power comes from. We don’t have to be cajoled or forced into making changes on any particular day. We get to pick.
What will you choose?
Whether you decide to make changes for the New Year or not, there is one tool you can choose to use that will most definitely make your life change. This tool is the one I help clients implement, over and over again, because it is so effective.
What is this amazing tool?
The ability to get up, after falling down, and get back into the scrum of change.
(Yeah, scrum. You ever seen one? Pretty much symbolizes actual internal change- working your ass off for a little tiny movement. Both true and hilarious.)
If you can develop your perseverance muscle, you are going to win the game of change. Of course, developing the perseverance muscle takes falling down and getting back up- we only learn to persevere by practicing it. Prepare to fail, prepare to start again, and you will get where you’re going.
Whatever you choose to do with your life and your body in the New Year, I hope it makes your life more enjoyable, your heart deeper, and your spirit more alive.
Blessings to you,
Joanna :: xoxo