My summer has been a whirlwind of ‘get the house ready to sell’ and…it was actually kind of a lost summer. Every day ran into the next and nothing terribly memorable happened. I got super stressed and freaked out regularly. There was so much to do we didn’t even take a proper vacation. [We all really missed having a vacation. Lesson learned.]
And, I’ll be honest, I let a lot of important pieces of my life go for this summer. I barely kept up with meditating, even though that makes a huge difference in my mood. I ate okay, but it was quick meals to make room for more painting. And I barely ever got to bed on time. The results were predictable: not great. I am putting these things back into my life- as the kids go back to school and my husband starts a new job- but it takes effort, even if I have the space. I’m not perfect, ladies, and I want to be transparent about that.
But! what this summer did do for me, amidst all the mindless activities where I could zone out, was give me room to ponder and help me sort through my internal world and remember important things. Like, what I love about my work, what I feel called to as my mission, and what I can do to help all of you.
The compass of my work has refined itself over the years. I started just being a ‘holistic health coach.’ Gradually, I refined a bit more by moving to peri-menopause and menopause as my focus. I love (LOVE) the transformational process of peri-menopause so much.
And then, I went through the Sex Surge, and I became very clear that this was part of my work, too- because nobody was talking about it. (And when nobody talks about crazy libido increases, it makes you think you’re crazy. We gotta talk about it!)
Sometimes those things feel very different. The circles of ‘peri-menopause’ and ‘sex surge’ have a very small area of overlap- there’s not a lot they share. They do share important pieces, though: hormones, self-awareness, emotional difficulty, and transformation. I love both peri-menopause and the Sex Surge and I consider them both important parts of mid-life female development.
But in my pondering these past weeks, I was given the words (by my awesome business manager) for what my work is and where I will put my focus to benefit everyone. I am focusing on three guiding concepts:
- The Sex Surge is real.
- Hormones are crazy.
- It’s time to decide what your life will be.
These three concepts give me a lot of room to create and share, and also continue helping both the groups I love. Add ‘body, mind, and spirit’ to the mix and the possibilities are almost endless.
My compass setting has gotten clearer and narrower, but also deeper.
I will be talking about the Sex Surge more, so if that doesn’t serve you, please feel free to drop your RSS or newsletter subscription. I have many more readers in this category, and my offerings need to reflect that. Hormones and peri-menopause stuff will still be here, but less frequently.
I will talk about some ‘woo woo’ stuff because I think it is a relevant perspective and there are useful tools to be claimed in that area (plus, sometimes our connection to the Fuckable Friend is very energetic/psycho-spiritual, as opposed to physical).
And we’re really going to focus on stepping into your power through all these situations and life transitions. That doesn’t mean you need to become some kind of out-going, ovaries to the wall, She-Ra lady (although you can if you want to!). It simply means gathering your life’s wisdom and deciding which direction you want to put your time and energy into so that you feel fulfilled and whole.
It’s funny but this summer has been a bit of a storm- raging and fury and high kinetic energy on the outside. But on the inside I’ve been calm and clear and found my center for my work (at least for now!). I hope you’ll stick around for what comes next.